I’ve heard it said, by both genders alike, that women can’t have it all.
Have you heard that old saying? You can’t have your cake and eat it too? When I was younger I thought that was one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever heard in my life! I used to think that through hard work I can have anything I want and eat it too (obviously). But then why is it that successful women in different industries don’t believe it themselves?
Women such as Indra Krishnamurthy Nooyi is an Indian American wife and mother of two daughters who serves as the current chairwoman and CEO of PepsiCo. Although this is a pretty impressive position, during an interview Indra took part in with, she answered a question that many women may be asked which is, “can a woman have it all?” Indra responded with what seemed to be like an automated answer saying, “I don’t think women can have it all. I just don’t think so. We pretend we have it all. We pretend we can have it all.” This got me thinking that a woman, be it she is a @KhaleejiGirl or not, and how she cannot have it all. It seems like we will always have to make sacrifices between our career and a family.
As a lawyer, who has a difficult case to build, will that be more important than taking care of her child? What about a woman who is just beginning to build her career? Will she be looked down upon if no one seeks an interest in making her a new bride because she is so invested in her own aspirations? According to a study Harvard Business Review conducted, it shows how, “between a third and a half of all successful career women in the United States do not have children. In fact, 33% of such women (business executives, doctors, lawyers, academics, and the like) in the 41-to-55 age bracket are childless—and that figure rises to 42% in corporate America. These women have not chosen to remain childless.”
Is this why Oprah never married Stedman?
I’m not saying that every woman can’t have both, but what I have noticed from my surroundings is that it is very rare and tricky to do so. When it is done, it’s almost like a magic trick of balancing between career and family. In fact, according to the author Jayne Morris she firmly believes in the balance of doing it all. She mentions the trick behind this with the following list:
– We cannot make things happen if we are burning out.
– Self-care must come first (we cannot put an oxygen mask on others if we are not wearing one ourselves).
– It is not possible to give 100% of one’s energy to everything simultaneously
– There is a difference between having it all and being everything to everyone.
– It is important to share responsibilities and be willing to accept help.
– Having it all does not mean ‘doing it all’.
So now, a @KhaleejiGirl is able to decide whether she wants to have it all (career and family) or not. After all, isn’t that the answer to the question? Whether a @KhaleejiGirl has the choice to have it all or not?